A must read article by the written by the parent of Muhammad Alfid and Ashammed Azmid of 4E and mother of Nefra Mariyam of 2C
The Powerful influence of Parents on a child
Almighty blessed us to be parents. But are we truly fulfilling our role? Are we merely meant to give birth and provide the basic needs? Do we not have things to do beyond that for our kids? Our journey as a parent does not confine us to just nurturing, helping them navigate life’s hurdles and guiding. But one of the most significant aspects of this journey is helping them reach their goals, whether they are academic, personal, or professional.
As parents, we need to equip them with the tools they need to succeed. This involves laying a solid foundation, providing support, and most importantly being there every step of the way as they work towards their dreams.
Tools and tactics
Time and space: Most of us have heard this and do spend time with our kids. Really, it is the Time that is especially important thing that we can give them. The act of spending time together is just as important as what is done during that time. Most of us merely exist next to them physically, without much mental interaction. Listen to them, play with them, cuddle them, express your love and care to them. If you are too strict and hard, then your kid will be reluctant to open up. he will never share with you.
Impact: improves mental and physical health, reduces stress, boosts self-confidence, lowers risk of behavioral problems, and supports academic performance.
Positive strokes: Positive strokes are anything that makes you feel good- a compliment, a hug, a pat on the back, praise, flowers etc. When your kid does something good just appreciate him /her with kind words or a hug. Even if it is a small thing, it does not matter – just give them at least a sticker, which will encourage them to do it again.
Impact: Boosts self-esteem and encourages desired behavior.
Modelling the behavior: kids are constantly watching and mimicking us. Demonstrating the behavior, you want them to show makes a bigger impact than just telling them what to do. Parents should show respect to each other- loving and understanding parents have an extra ordinary kid. If you want them to speak kindly to others, make sure to speak kindly to your partner, friends, and even strangers.
Impact: Desired behavior and attitude towards others.
Writing down a cheerful outlook: Writing down your child’s positive attitude can significantly affect their character. By doing so you reinforce a child’s sense of accomplishment. Keep aside a book to write down your kids’ positive behavior of each day and read it aloud to them daily, this makes child feel noticed and appreciated.
Impact: Reinforces their sense of value, help them continue making positive choices and build positive traits.
Consistency and routine: schedule daily tasks and routine for them- this can reduce stress for kids and parents. Establish regular times for meals, schoolwork, chores, and bedtime. make a to- do list for them. Impact: children will learn to be systematic and consistent. Reduces anxiety.
Normalize failure: Let children see that failure is a natural part of life, rather than something to fear or avoid. Play any game with your child and purposefully lose, then behave normally as if nothing big had happened. This will make the kid aware that losing in a game is not a big deal. Failure and mistakes are part of life but always teach them to learn from their mistakes. Impact: Helps children accept challenges and try new things.
Conclusion: as you all know there are no short cuts in parenting. With immense patience and hard work, one can make their child extra ordinary.
